We only reap the feelings we sow.
Posted: Tue Feb 11, 2025 5:59 am
Hello dear friends and welcome to this new episode of Marchez Avec Johan. I am once again very very happy that you are joining me today for this episode in which we are going to talk today about a line, a verse that is in a song. So, I am going to talk to you about this, you saw it in the title, it is "we never reap only the feelings that we sow". So, this verse is taken from a song by Charles Aznavour. The song is Il te suffisait que je t'aime .
Charles Aznavour, you probably know him, he was a great great great singer, an immense French singer who had an international career spanning more than 70 years. So, he lasted a very very very long time. He was an author, composer, performer and actor, and he wrote more than 1,200 songs. So, there you go, I admire his longevity, his talent, his humility too. In any case, that's what came out of the different interviews I was able to see of him, because I had done a module of the Académie Français Authentique. Among the 110 modules of the academy, there is one on Charles Aznavour. And I was impressed when I listened to him speak in his interviews, while preparing the module, to see how humble he is and his songs are very beautiful, his lyrics are beautiful. So, if you like French, the language of Molière, I invite you to really listen to him. And this song, therefore, is It was enough for you that I loved you .
So, in this song, there is this line "we never reap anything but the feelings we sow". So, here, there is a metaphor that is linked to agriculture. When we sow, the farmer will sow iran whatsapp number data seeds and he will harvest plants that will give him fruits... fruits or vegetables. Very often, they are vegetables, by the way. But the idea is this, it is we sow something and we harvest.
And here, in this sentence, he tells us that at the level of feelings, ultimately, it's the same, that our actions, our words, our attitude directly influence the way in which others will interact with us. So, if I sow positivity, joy, etc., I will reap positivity. If I am positive, the person in front of me is more likely to be positive. Of course, it's not guaranteed. There are people who are negative, no matter what. But in any case, I quite agree with Charles Aznavour. We often reap the feelings we sow.
There are even studies that have been done on the subject. There is a principle of emotional reciprocity. So, something reciprocal is something that is identical in the other as in us. If I say for example "I love you very much" and you answer me, "it's mutual", well that means that you love me very much too, that you feel the same thing. And so, there is a principle of emotional reciprocity which tells us that in fact the positive or negative emotions that we express, that we have, they will create a mirror effect in others. So, if you look at yourself in a mirror, you see yourself. Well there, it's a bit the same. If you send positive, you will receive positive.
You could almost say that emotions are contagious. Something contagious, we often talk about contagious to talk about illness. A contagious illness, well it's an illness that someone can catch from you if you're sick, if you have this illness. COVID-19 was contagious. If a person had it and came into contact with you, you had a good chance of having it. And so, it's the same thing with emotions. We say that emotions are contagious, that means that if you have emotions, feelings that are positive, if you're kind, if you're patient, if you have love, well you will very often have positive responses from others. And conversely, if you are negative, if you don't smile, if you are angry, indifferent, if you criticize, only negative things in fact, well you risk having in return, of reaping in return the same emotions from others.
So, all this tells us that it is important of course to be positive. And we don't just do it for others, we do it for ourselves too. But in any case, from a social contacts point of view, interaction with others, well being positive and having a positive attitude is something super important. It is almost an investment in fact, a relational investment, because you sow positive investments, it is as if you were sowing seeds in a garden. The more you take care of your garden, you put the seeds and you take care of it, the more you will harvest fruits or vegetables in abundance. They will be more beautiful, more numerous. And it is the same thing ultimately at the level of human relations, because if you sow positive seeds in your relationships with others, well you will harvest exactly the same thing.
And in fact, as I was saying earlier, it's something I've been doing for a very long time, and I do it in a relatively natural way, it's not something forced, with my family, with my friends, with my colleagues at work. And in fact, I don't do it out of personal interest, there would be nothing worse than doing it only in a calculated way and saying to yourself: "Well, I'm going to be nice, that way others will be nice". It shouldn't be something you do out of calculation obviously, but I do it simply because it's what's best.
So, there you have it, we only ever reap the feelings we sow. If you sow positive, you will reap positive, and if you sow negative, you will reap negative. It's true everywhere, eh, it's true in the family.
If you listen to your children attentively, if you are kind, if you seek to help them, even for problems that seem minor, well they will learn to trust you, they will know that you are there to help them and they will share in the future their victories and their challenges. So, by finally cultivating this positive and kind spirit, well you reap the trust of your children.
At work, it's the same thing. If you encourage colleagues, recognize their efforts, are there to help them, contribute to a good atmosphere of collaboration, well in return, these colleagues will be there to help you when you need it and they will do their best to make things work as well as possible in the team.
Charles Aznavour, you probably know him, he was a great great great singer, an immense French singer who had an international career spanning more than 70 years. So, he lasted a very very very long time. He was an author, composer, performer and actor, and he wrote more than 1,200 songs. So, there you go, I admire his longevity, his talent, his humility too. In any case, that's what came out of the different interviews I was able to see of him, because I had done a module of the Académie Français Authentique. Among the 110 modules of the academy, there is one on Charles Aznavour. And I was impressed when I listened to him speak in his interviews, while preparing the module, to see how humble he is and his songs are very beautiful, his lyrics are beautiful. So, if you like French, the language of Molière, I invite you to really listen to him. And this song, therefore, is It was enough for you that I loved you .
So, in this song, there is this line "we never reap anything but the feelings we sow". So, here, there is a metaphor that is linked to agriculture. When we sow, the farmer will sow iran whatsapp number data seeds and he will harvest plants that will give him fruits... fruits or vegetables. Very often, they are vegetables, by the way. But the idea is this, it is we sow something and we harvest.
And here, in this sentence, he tells us that at the level of feelings, ultimately, it's the same, that our actions, our words, our attitude directly influence the way in which others will interact with us. So, if I sow positivity, joy, etc., I will reap positivity. If I am positive, the person in front of me is more likely to be positive. Of course, it's not guaranteed. There are people who are negative, no matter what. But in any case, I quite agree with Charles Aznavour. We often reap the feelings we sow.
There are even studies that have been done on the subject. There is a principle of emotional reciprocity. So, something reciprocal is something that is identical in the other as in us. If I say for example "I love you very much" and you answer me, "it's mutual", well that means that you love me very much too, that you feel the same thing. And so, there is a principle of emotional reciprocity which tells us that in fact the positive or negative emotions that we express, that we have, they will create a mirror effect in others. So, if you look at yourself in a mirror, you see yourself. Well there, it's a bit the same. If you send positive, you will receive positive.
You could almost say that emotions are contagious. Something contagious, we often talk about contagious to talk about illness. A contagious illness, well it's an illness that someone can catch from you if you're sick, if you have this illness. COVID-19 was contagious. If a person had it and came into contact with you, you had a good chance of having it. And so, it's the same thing with emotions. We say that emotions are contagious, that means that if you have emotions, feelings that are positive, if you're kind, if you're patient, if you have love, well you will very often have positive responses from others. And conversely, if you are negative, if you don't smile, if you are angry, indifferent, if you criticize, only negative things in fact, well you risk having in return, of reaping in return the same emotions from others.
So, all this tells us that it is important of course to be positive. And we don't just do it for others, we do it for ourselves too. But in any case, from a social contacts point of view, interaction with others, well being positive and having a positive attitude is something super important. It is almost an investment in fact, a relational investment, because you sow positive investments, it is as if you were sowing seeds in a garden. The more you take care of your garden, you put the seeds and you take care of it, the more you will harvest fruits or vegetables in abundance. They will be more beautiful, more numerous. And it is the same thing ultimately at the level of human relations, because if you sow positive seeds in your relationships with others, well you will harvest exactly the same thing.
And in fact, as I was saying earlier, it's something I've been doing for a very long time, and I do it in a relatively natural way, it's not something forced, with my family, with my friends, with my colleagues at work. And in fact, I don't do it out of personal interest, there would be nothing worse than doing it only in a calculated way and saying to yourself: "Well, I'm going to be nice, that way others will be nice". It shouldn't be something you do out of calculation obviously, but I do it simply because it's what's best.
So, there you have it, we only ever reap the feelings we sow. If you sow positive, you will reap positive, and if you sow negative, you will reap negative. It's true everywhere, eh, it's true in the family.
If you listen to your children attentively, if you are kind, if you seek to help them, even for problems that seem minor, well they will learn to trust you, they will know that you are there to help them and they will share in the future their victories and their challenges. So, by finally cultivating this positive and kind spirit, well you reap the trust of your children.
At work, it's the same thing. If you encourage colleagues, recognize their efforts, are there to help them, contribute to a good atmosphere of collaboration, well in return, these colleagues will be there to help you when you need it and they will do their best to make things work as well as possible in the team.