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And again, this language of love, we have it, we can't change it, we didn't choose it. Very often, it comes a little from our education or our history, but it's very important to know it, very very important.

My love language is physical touch and words of affirmation. I would say words of affirmation are the second one; the first one is physical touch. I need someone to hold my hand, to hold me in their arms, to feel love. And the second one is words of affirmation.

I just explained, you understand the biggest mistake that can be made in a couple, a mistake that I made for years, is that we tend to believe that the way we like to receive love is the same for our wife or husband.

So, in my case, it would be to say to myself: "Well, for me, the only way or the most effective way for me to receive love is physical contact and words of affirmation, well that's what I'm going to offer my wife", and that's what I did for a long time, while it's not necessarily the same thing for her. And these languages ​​or the fact that I communicate mainly with these love languages, well that doesn't bring anything, it's neutral for her.

And again, I made that mistake, huh. As I was telling you, physical contact, words of affirmation are my two main love languages, that's what I gave to Celine in the majority, thinking that it was good, but in fact, her love language is quality time. So, I was only offering her things that were certainly nice and that she appreciated, but which were not enough to fill her love tank. So, I was offering her too much of what she didn't need, physical contact and words of affirmation, compliments, while I wasn't offering her enough of what she really needed, namely quality time. Since it's not something very important to me, I didn't feel like it was for her. And yet, it is.

It is therefore essential to know the main love language of our spouse, and this book allows you to do so, because there is even a little test, etc. that you can do as a couple. But the idea is to discover the love language of your other half and to apply, to try to… as often as possible in any case… respond to this need and this love korea whatsapp number data language. Building an action plan is what I did for Céline. Her love language is quality time, and I try to put things in place that will satisfy her on this point.

And it's also very important to know your personal love language(s) and communicate them with great transparency to your spouse so that they know, because when you don't know something, usually it's hard to put it into practice. So, knowing yourself and communicating. Communicating is always key.

Of course, this doesn't mean that we should only focus on our other half's main love language. The idea is to know the main thing, to try as much as possible to satisfy it without forgetting the others. For example, receiving gifts is very low at Céline, but it's still always nice to receive a small gift, so we can also play this card. The idea is not to say we only do one thing, it's to focus on the most important thing.

And if you do that, your marriage will be a lot happier. Now, obviously, this is not exhaustive, there are many other things that are essential to having a successful marriage, but I think this is a good starting point and I really encourage you to read this book if you want to learn more, go a little deeper and apply these concepts.

As for me, as I told you, I am already applying what I learned in this book. Although my marriage is already very, very good and going very well, I feel that this is improving it.

So, if you ever feel that in your marriage, there are things that are not working, this book could literally save your relationship. In any case, it costs nothing to try. And you see, it's a book that is relatively short, that is easy to read, there are barely 200 pages, so, it's very quick to read, very easy to understand, very easy to apply. And frankly, we're talking about a marriage. It's one of the most important things in the world. So, it's really worth taking the time to learn about this subject.

Note that there is also a version for children and for teenagers of the five love languages. So, I'm going to start the five love languages ​​for teenagers soon. And I hope to learn things from it that will help me improve as a dad, because Emma is entering... my daughter Emma is entering her teenage years.

I hope you enjoyed it. If so, leave a little "like" and share this video with your friends, it helps us a lot. Tell us in the comments what you think your love language is. It's always interesting to think carefully and try to know yourself. Know yourself, as Socrates said. It was an inscription on the Temple of Delphi, in Athens. You can already... I had already determined my love language before taking the test at the end of the book. So, even if you haven't read the book, you can already try to guess what you think your love language is and tell us in the comments.

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